Hi Pink, just another male pov, your H has a huge connection to you. No matter who comes into his life or who he thinks will improve his life they are not you. Its very easy to get attached to someone else if your perception is that all is not perfect at home but reality starts to bite when the person you did not want starts to move away from you. You seem to be DBing well and even if it seems like he does not notice he does. He will be watching every response and text you make. I don't believe anyone walks away from a spouce and family with 100 % confidence (unless abuse or the like). As a man I started Dbing the day W left, I was open to her but never once mentioned her flat, her life outside or how she was, I would comfort her re kids and validate her choices while disagreing with them. I had numorous texts along the lines of ' you are coping better than me ' or ' glad your doing so well about this, sorry i'm such a state" . I made it clear she is welcome home IF we start to work on our M but it would take a long time. Your H knows he is losing alot, he has to, your history together might be tarnished in his mind now but he will have moments of clarity caused by life, a memory, etc. Obviouslty I don't know your H but please believe me, he is temp checking you and you seem to be doing perfect. I have read your threads from the start and you seem really strong, keep the PMA because even if your H is stupid enough to lose you, it will be someones elses HUGE gain ( if you think their good enough).. PS I am picking up a grand cherokee today or tomorrow ( good for Colorado, just saying !!!!!)
