Even you say you are not a vet, but your opinion as a guy counts a lot. Sometimes I like to hear the guys input because you probably understand better how guys think.
I was at the movie theater tonight, my kids and I went to see "The Hobbit" (I loved the Elves as usual). H calls a few times, my phone was on vibration so it keeps vibrating all the time, so I text him saying I could not talk, sorry.
He then text he just would like to talk to me for a little moment. I text back saying I will be home late,then I add if this is about the XMas list from the kids. I know he sleeps early and it was almost 10pm. He text me asking me to call him next day so we could talk for a little while.
So, what is this he wants to talk that we actually need to speak with each other? I left the movie theater then call him. Obviously he is sleeping and I know he is tired from a whole day snowboarding. So I asked what he wants to talk about and he asked me if I had the XMas lists, and if I do to send them to him so he can check what the kids want.
Gee, why so much drama over a simple reply...Do you have the XMas lists already? I don't get it. He is the one that wants to D me, he is the one saying he has feelings for someone else, he is the one that left me. Why he goes around every stupid subject and make a big soap opera?
I really think that when he start feeling I am slipping out of his fingers, then he start this whole torture campaign of being in my life every single day.
I know we have kids together, but if he is trying to get rid of me, why is he doing this? Sometimes I tough he was doing these kind of things because he wants a friendly D, but the D never happen.
Guys are weird creatures, I can't get their whole psychology.
Again, thanks a lot for the positive comments, I also think like you. I am just afraid to go there and break my heart again. He can say all these things that makes me think there is hope, but the truth is that he is not saying he wants to work on our M, he did not mention he even feels like coming back home, he does not say he at least would like to date more often and see what could happen to us.
Maybe he thinks he is giving me some kind of support for me to rebuild my life and find someone else, so he wouldn't feel so guilt about living me at this point in life.
I don't know, sometimes I feel like he is doing the DBing on me. Lately, I actually feel good that he is not around. I had my independent life when I met H, it's coming back to me and feels pretty good to do whatever I want to.
