Separated, but still friends

[TLEE86]

Pink,

First let me say again how much I appreciate your insights on my thread, it really helps keep my PMA. Next, obviously not a vet so take my comments with a grain of salt.

The truth is that I feel pretty good hearing him saying that he feel along, misses his family, misses me and misses talking to me. And say that he hope he is taking the right decision because he is not sure if what he is doing is right or not.

I wish things could change soon, but this idiot OW is coming to US in a few days and who knows what is going to happen. Maybe a need to expect a long journey

As you know my WAW had said similar things to me and like you, I know that here we believe in actions over words. HOWEVER, that being said I take those positive things that my W says as truthful in that particular moment in time.

I think that to some extent we do need to take into account what they say because IMHO, your H saying those things is a lot better than saying I hate you or I never want to be with you again. He may or may not have said those hurtful things before when he was just starting to be in the fog, but now that the dust has settled a little, he may be thinking a little bit more clearly and has little moments where he actually misses it again. Just my opinion. Keep your head up!