I've been tempted a couple of times to text WAW today, but I've been able to resist. Felt like texting that I had a good time at the mall (I did, and she warmed up, too). Wanted to ask if she found the rest of her gifts. And now something else has come up...BIL (my SIL's H) has a gravely ill father. They all live three hours away. WAW is supposed to go there for Christmas on Christmas day, then they are trekking to Nashville to meet extended family. I think BIL's father throws a wrench into the whole thing, and Im curious of WAW's thoughts. Whenever he passes, I will definitely go to the services. Assuming WAW isn't already out of town for Christmas, I imagine we would carpool together. We'll see how that all plays out. I'm more concerned about BIL as he is very close to his dad. I lost mine two years ago and know how hard it is. I'm not going to play the "I know how you feel" card.
Now, Christmas morning...last week, the same night WAW told me she wanted D, she said she wanted me to bring D2 to her apt first thing in the morning so she could have early morning Christmas with her parents. She said D2 deserves to have it with her parents (of course...she deserves it every year. She deserves to have every morning with her parents. But I digress...and no, I didn't say that). At the time, I was reluctant. I don't think I want to do it now. I don't think I'm playing a game when I say that this is a natural consequence of S/D. And it wouldn't be fair for D2 to wake up to a room full of presents around a Christmas tree and have to get immediately packed into a car and lugged across town. I'm not sure when or how, but I'm going to tell WAW we'll be over there after we do Christmas at my mom's house.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
