WAW Dating - Oh noes!!..

[LoveMyW]

Glad you enjoyed the caroling.

Its not wrong to think that about their relationship and in a lot of ways the sooner its over the better, however depending what place you wife is in, if its over too soon she might not be ready to give you another chance and so would look for someone else.

Its not a pleasant thing to do but think long term and ask yourself what is the SECOND best outcome from all of your situation. See what you feel toward the BF then.

I'm confident everything is fixable if you're both willing

I'd like it to be over soon too Jim!!.. Although I want to see W happy, I honestly don't want her to in this way and it's not hard for all and sundry to see the fog/lust/infatuation will bring her unstuck..

I suppose it's a common thing that WAS that get in to these relationships almost always "downgrade" from their H/W when they start with another person.. In this case, it is textbook..

To answer your question, I feel I'm at the second best outcome right now.. An awesome relationship with my kids, and amicability for their sake with her..

Knowing what I know about BF (all bar 1 claim confirmed), I can't see myself changing my thought towards the POS.. If he was a better person than myself then I would consider an amicability there at some stage in the future, but as it stands right now I will not accept it in any way with him as looking at level headed, he isn't the type of person I would hang around even if all this wasn't happening, so I am not making time for him..

That's the thing, she needs to see it all for what it is and become willing.. I know I can't change/influence that, but we can all hope..