2 and 3 on your action list are good plans but will you respond if he initiates between now and 6 Jan? or are you only talking about initiating contact

with regard to 1.

I would be tempted to stick with just
'XXXXXXX is the book i mentioned the other day, i found it really interesting.

you could add a
'let me know what you think'

if you want to throw in the validation, which i'm not sure is a great idea, then you might want to consider something like

'Thanks for sharing your feelings. I know that it can be difficult so i'm pleased you felt you could'

the added bit is a reminder that he felt safe with you at that time and i think adds sincerity to the thanks because it shows you felt it was a positive thing


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress