I tell you, it hurts my friends. I seriously don't think I will ever get over being betrayed like this. If I only knew this is what marriage was, I would not have done it. Seriously blows. I will STFU now.
((((NAJ1964))))
first up, we know we really do. over the last few months i've felt a level of emptiness and pain that i didnt even know existed. I've always been someone who cant focus but right now i cant think of anything else. So I/we understand your pain - I wish i could make it go away for you
Yes, you will get over the betrayal beacuse you'll decide you will and because not do so is going to keep you in your pain. people overcome pretty much anything they jsut have to decided thats what they are going to do and then put in the hard graft to make it happen. Not easy, not quick but worth it
This isnt what marriage is.
this is what betrayal and hurt and heartbreak is. Marriage is two people who love each other, who want to share their lives with each other, who make each other happy and work together to overcome lifes obstacles and challenges. Marriage is what you get when both people make their promises to each other, work at those promises and always honour those promises - when both people do that marriage is a beautiful and amazing thing, but its also a big risk and both people need to take that risk together in order to make it succeed. If you dont take the risk you'll never experience the joy. Me, I hate this, but it makes me value real marriage more than i ever realised.
You'll be ok, and when you dont feel it act like it anyway
((((NAJ1964))))
On the more practical side I think there is definitely some scope for defining your boundaries but there are people way wiser than I on that one
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
