we've been together 6 years and my wife has been unhappy for 3.5 of those since my D3 was born. At the beginning of september 2014 she said she wanted to end our relationship as she didnt love me any more.
queue lots of begging, pleading, crying and general neediness from me. As well as occassional bouts of anger and 'you're making a mistake'. My wife has been the queen of detachment and has shown no signs of any upset or doubt regarding the split - her attitude toward me is mostly avoidant and dismissive.
I subsequently found out that she was infatuated with a man at the office and decided to pursue a relationship with him. to quote a message from my W to a friend 'I had to leave him because i know i would have cheated'
After fits and starts she is now in a relationship with the man from work (OM1) and by all accounts they are very happy.
assuming all the legal paperwork goes through she will be moving out of our house in mid january 2015.
My W's stated big issues in our marriage: - She doesnt trust me and she doesnt feel like i trust her - I've let her down to often - Im always too negative - I make horrible sarcastic comments - I'm attritional when i argue
I've documented at length the issues that i need to address about me (what the rebuild needs to cover) including a giant post in my previous thread
My major DB issues are Detaching so that i'm not affected by her so much keeping my PMA STFU - as i let my emotions do too much talking
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
