A Piece here and a Piece there...

[holdingon]

Water,

This road is so hilly and rocky, but yet a road we still continue to travel...

You HURT. He hurt you with his remark. And it always seems to hurt MORE because it comes so unexpectedly... we are getting along so well, surely he WON'T hurt me and then, wham... he does. That whole ordeal about my H going to Las Vegas w/ or w/out OW cut me to the core, cause I was standing there so open, so unprepared.

You told him you did not want the D. Maybe you can have an R talk about it... about trying to start anew without the D... You will have to figure that out.

As you said, you (again) have NO control over whether he gets this D or not. And YOU KNOW it will not change your feelings toward him or his toward you. I think my H feels the same about the D. If they get a D it in some crazy, lousy way makes the A less of a horrible thing in their mind... when the reality is, they still cheated. And the reality is, a simple apology and I'll never do it again, would suffice. And he WILL come to that realization sometime.

I know you feel betrayed, hurt angry... but nothing has changed in your sitch... things are still GOOD, things are moving forward. Your H just isn't standing on firm ground quite yet... but he's getting there.

What, did you think the road would straighten out and smooth over???