Busting a Move - LisaB Ch6

[gan]

Hey, Lisa. Sorry not to be over this way in a while (been busy dealing with my sitch as you know).

I totally get where you are coming from when you say that it could be useful to meet up to see where your H is at. This would be a bit different to previous meet ups as you've gone something like a month with much less contact than usual. Maybe that has given him something to think about.

All this being said, I do think you need to prepare yourself for an R talk in the event that it comes up. And yes, STFU and listen! If it's clear that he still intends to be with OWs while wanting to be friends with you, then maybe that is the appropriate time to state your boundary.

I always got the impression that that your H talked openly about OWs but then recently you said you got that info by snooping? If it's in the air, then I don't think you should feel bad about stating your boundary. It's not that he can't see OWs, its that you won't be friends with him while he is. It's not that you're jealous, it's that he's being an a$$ and no one wants to be friends with an a$$. Except Winnie the Pooh ;-)