First, big apologies for sending you a post meant for Wonder, I was reading through both threads earlier and got a bit mixed up, obviously, with various windows from different threads open at the same time, so I will copy it onto her thread, and now continue to address you!
I really am sorry about the latest development. A lot of what I wrote to Wonder applies here too.
My H even mentioned that he would write to me, that he had composed many letters and not sent them, out of unsureness and cowardice. He still hasn't really sent me THE letter, as he said we had talked and already discussed everything really..... duh.... right.
This business about 'forgetting' to let the spouse know that they are going ahead with the divorce and all that, being told casually by email when you saw each other only recently..... bad.
And that stuff about the D making the A legitimate, yes, I have those same suspicions. My H allowed the legal separation to go ahead, even though we were connecting. He said there was no future for us, but unbeknownst to me he had OW no.2 scheduled to come over from abroad just a few days later. So that's OK then. Silly me.
Water, you say you have no say in all of this. That's why we have to get our own act together. We do have a say in THAT. If or when our Hs decide they want us after all, you WILL get a say in whether THAT happens.
You may find yourself in a sunnier place by then anyway and not WANT to move back towards H. Just fancy that. And getting our act togther is the biggest turn on to others!
Wish I could be more help, but I'm tired and plan an earlyish night. No panda eyes for when H comes to stay the weekend!
