I was just reading some of your thread, and it so eerily similar - your H thinking that you wanted to leave him back before the A and all that... Looks like you've read my thread as I spotted a quote from it, about moving forward yourself and hoping that H looks sharp enough to catch the same train.
I am really sorry to hear about the latest developments. I am sure the only reason I am not D is that in this country you cannot divorce before three years of separation.
I was out in the park this morning and it was beautiful and I had this sense that whatever happens, whether H returns to me or not, I will be OK. I think I felt this way because I kept very busy the last three days, doing things with people and being validated by them.
Then I came home and sent H an email, the first in three days, and now I am back to hoping he will reply to me. Terrible roller coaster, this.
Maybe if you get to feeling "OK with him, Ok without him" you really will be able to move on and he may or may not catch up with you a little later.
What on EARTH makes these WAS think that their new relationships won't be headed the same way a little down the road beats me. No pain (work), no gain. No learning from the past, no escape from repeating history.
Wonder, what more can I say at the moment?
Here's a hug instead -
((((((((((((((((((((wonder))))))))))))))))))))
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
