After BD and before she moved out I had gotten pretty good at guiding the conversation back to the topic, and picking out only certain things from what she said. My IC helped me work on this skill because he was our MC/DC counselor too and even he struggled with it. She was never willing to work on it while we were M, no way she will work on it now. I tried sticking to mainly tm for a while but 2 things : 1) tm are hard to read "tone" and 2) found out it was OM texting back and forth with me on 2 occasions.
At least with TM I could go back and read, and re-read her msgs.
I like the idea of saying we can talk about it later. In fact, I have thought about having a pen and paper so I could write down the topics we were going to discuss. Honestly though, I really don't want to talk about any of our past issues any more because she has re-written our marital history so bad that I actually laughed at her last week.
Last edited by bdub; 12/22/1408:17 PM.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
