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WAW and I have always struggled communicating. Her first reaction to conflict is to raise her voice. My reaction to her raised voice is to shut down and close her out. When I don't shut down she tends to switch topics or bring up past issues. Then, when I try to re-center the conversation she gets frustrated because she feels like I am controlling.

Anyone else ever have to deal with this? To me, when she starts switching topics and bringing up the past its like being on the computer and having more and more windows pop up. I keep trying to close one window at a time but more and more pop up. Very overwhelming and nothing ever gets accomplished.
After a while I start interrupting and cutting her off. Then I start reacting to her emotion and it just becomes a viscious circle.