Hey Cadet, what does moving forward look like? Moving out of the house? Signing a lease somewhere? Dating? I feel like all of these things are moving in the opposite direction of trying to save my marriage. Does that make sense?
Here is the thing about moving forward. YOU get to decide what it looks like. Not me! Not your WAS. It could be some of the above things but it could be other options too. It could be a new job, or a new hobby. I have read many books from the library. Taken many courses for free on the internet.(coursera) Gotten involved in genealogy.
You could volunteer, become a big brother or sister, help out in a soup kitchen, hospital or church activity.
Go mountain climbing or surfing. Join a meetup group for a new interest.
And I understand that some of the things maybe opposite of saving your marriage but believe me when I say that 180's are counter intuitive.
I too struggled with what changes I should make. Because someone told me that if you are an alcoholic and the change you make is switching from vodka to light beer. that may not be the most valuable change to make.
So take your time, think about what would be valuable for YOU. And make some changes.
