I agree w/FY....go and have some fun and leave your h at home spinning. It' his loss.

I think you've got a very good attitude about your situation and you are right...it's not what you want, but it's a choice he's made and you are making the best of it. Daring, you will be okay once things settle down. I know that right now w/your mom, the IRS hearing, the divorce papers and the holidays everything feels like it's piling up on you, but come January, things will settle down a bit and you'll feel a little better and you will find your footing once again.

Hang in there!

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.