Busting a Move - LisaB Ch6

[LisaB]

Hi Maybell and Vanilla, thanks so much for your advice. I do feel the urge to do exactly that: say "no I don't want to be your buddy while you are off galavanting with multiple women" but I feel I cannot or should not. Here's why:

1. he considers us done, finished, over - to him the logic is not there for me to have claims on him or be "jealous"
2. I know what he has been up to mostly due to spying - therefore I cannot really reveal what I know or why I am so irritated

However I could simply say I need space and not give a reason why. That could work.

There is one reason I am interested in seeing him. In the past (since BD) when he has been very needy about wanting to see me he usually wanted to have an R talk. And the past few times this happened I reacted poorly. Instead of listening and validating I didn't listen at all and just started giving him an earful about how angry and hurt I was. This definitely pushed him away and back to looking for more OWs.

So I am curious about whether he has something to say now. And if he has something to say I hope I could listen instead of talking.

If he doesn't have something substantial to say I think I could easily tell him "well, it's nice to see you but I really don't have interest in being friends right now."

Thanks my friends!

hugs,
Lisa