Sooo then I just had to text H and explain what happened and ask what he thought about it, and we had some back and forth about how some of these particular friends tend to assume things and aren't very good at reading details. I have not-so-good self control in the area of not contacting H lately, apparently, but am not sure yet how to remedy it. Then after I text something he texts back "That's good, and good night." Now I feel totally shot down.. I know I shouldn't.. because it's 10:40pm here and he probably has to work tomorrow.. but ugh.. I feel like I've been there for him when it's been important to him and now he's not. I'm feeling this moreso today because of all the recent contact we had, plus it's my birthday, plus the 1 year into BD brings up a lot of memories of when this started last X-mas time, plus it's the holidays. Oh yeah, and those drinks. Must institute calendar and be be strict about no contact for some set period of time!


Me:30 H:29, no kids
T:12, M:4 (when D was final)
12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore"
6/14: Separated (I move)
1/15: H filed for D
5/15: D final