Originally Posted By: Card29
It will have to wait until she's ready to receive it, which appears likely to never happen.
Argh! It drives me nuts when people write this on this board. When you were at the altar, what were the chances of separating? In your head, nil. When you had a baby, when you bought a house, what were the chances of separating? Nil, again. Yet, today, you are suddenly convinced that you can read the future. You simply don't know how she will feel tomorrow, next week and next month. And feelings change. When you got married, all signs were that you'd be happy forever, yet it changed. Today, she can very well look like she doesn't want you anymore, ever. So what? That's how it looked in every successful sitches. This is not to say that we know she'll be back, but that the true, honest, realistic assessment is that we don't know at all. It can go either way, even if the worst of sitches. And yours is not one of the worst, by far.

And I agree with those who believe that you pursue too much. It's been your problem for several weeks at least. Pursuing hurts you when she wants none of it. Imagine being pursued by someone you're trying to flee. It does not endear you. It looks controlling. If you could stop pursuing, I bet you'd see her opening up more, not less. Perhaps you can try for a day?


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