Ganb8te 3 - conquering crow pose

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Also, I went back and re-read your threads. And I wanted to give you a virtual hug. Some of the things that your H said to you, mine said to me, or something similar. When my H told me he was moving out, it was promises of rainbows and butterflies: we will still talk, see each other, I'm right down the road if you need anything. And then the [censored] went downhill from there.

I just find it so strange that a globe apart, two women (and literally not just us, everyone here on the board and thousands of other people) are going through a eerily life changing situation. Makes the world seem smaller, and puts into perspective how we all can be connected by shared experiences.

Or my meds could be talking. :-)

Thanks, Calibri, for catching up on my threads. My story is a tad dull…long gaps punctuated by meet ups that don't really change much. It's uncanny though, that there are so many similarities across everyone's experiences. Like even down to the wording… And knowing that you all are out there, totally changes my view of the people around me. Like people in the street, I wonder what they are going though behind the scenes.

Your experience is one that I relate to more than others, as I do wonder if depression played a role in my H's decision. There was no open acknowledgement of it before he left, so it's hard to say. But looking back on the 6 months prior to BD (and even earlier) I do think there were some signs. Also, some of the things you've said about yourself - not wanting to change the core of yourself but wanting to be more compassionate, less hard, less controlling and needing to learn to bit your tongue - this is how I feel about me, too. And regular yoga and mindfulness practice are helping me get there, so keep it up girl ;-) I am so glad to see that Labug has started reading your thread. Her advice to you speaks very much to me, as do her own threads.