Jim0987 #7 - rebuilding but can't tell what it is

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Your last point there is the most important imho, when its just you you can focus on where you are going or detatch, one seems to feed the other from what I've experienced so far anyway.

As to your comment on w I can say in my marriage I felt unwanted and "on standby" for a long time only being brought off the shelf when s wasn't around, a lot of that was my codependancy speaking and I know that now, not saying its the same in your case though.