Wife's Still a Lesbian

[HPoirot]

Just because your W is cold, distant, and checked out doesn't mean that you do the same to her. I'd suggest that you and your daughters show W warmth during Xmas. As the saying goes..."kill 'em with kindness." Try this out and you'll be surprised. Mind you, W will be cold for a while, but if you keep it up, she'll warm up to you in due course.

Friendly, short, and upbeat greetings (and interactions) with W will help your mental outlook.

Hello Jay. Happy birthday to you.

This from Wonka is where I struggle too. I show my W cold fury in my eyes and tone. I'm not helping my mental outlook nor my R with my W. I've heard many times to be the better person no matter how I'm treated. It's going to take commitment and effort especially when you let her behavior get to you (like I do too often). I was much better, even loving and supportive in the beginning. But, as the whole truth gradually came out about my W, I felt devastated and ashamed of being loving and supportive while she escalated her waywardness. Now it's hard for me to even be around her. I hope it doesn't get so bad for you so yes follow the advice... show warmth to her and let go of the way she's acting towards you.

-Does your W have some memory lapses when she talks with you or Ds?

-Does your W have a vacant look in her eyes?

-Does your W flinch when you try to touch her in nonsexual ways such as the arm, shoulder?

My W has done all the above. Said "get your F*cking hand off me" once when I put my hand on her knee.

I'm really sorry all this is happening in your family right now.