Great way to counter the negative thinking, Claire! I have a lot to learn from you! The birth of my first child was rather unpleasant as well. My H also started a new job a week before he was born and it was all he was focused on. As we were walking into the delivery room, he took a call on his cell from one of his new co-workers and ended the call with, "OK, I gotta go take care of something." I remember the nurse looking at me like my husband was crazy and she even said "Who is he talking to?" Rather inappropriate for the nurse to add her own "commentary" like that. But my H was not focused on the situation at hand. To make matters worse, my OB had me convinced I'd gone too far past my due date and insisted on an induction. So I had 14 hours of pitocin-induced labor, an epidural that wore off three times and then finally, a c-section, all of which probably would have been unnecessary if we had waited for the baby to come on his own. Meanwhile H was glued to his laptop constantly even though his new job told him not to worry about work and to just focus on me. If he had stayed at his old job, which I wish he had b/c I'm pretty sure his new job is where he met OW or at least the idea than an OW could be better (this has not officially been confirmed but there definitely was an emotional affair). He had enough seniority at his old job that he was going to be given four to six weeks off just to be home with us. We were both looking forward to that time together, but he also wanted to change companies, so when an opportunity came up, he took it without getting a raise and ending up with a lot more work and stress for both of us at such a critical time.
A friend of mine on the other hand has a great and very attentive H who she said was extremely irritable and rude during the birth of their second child. So I guess it's a stressful time for everyone.
Me: 38 H: 43 Kids: 2,4 T10 M6 BD: 1/14 11/14: H moves out
