I'm not trying to be a smart ass, it's a legit question. But the only way I see (from my viewpoint) of not being controlling is to basically stfu and not do anything?
That may be true for right now.
When you go dark or NC, you do it for you. Early on in this everything we do is emotion based and focused on controlling to make the WAS come back. We need time to get emotions under control and create that new improved version or ourselves.
The control is so built in for you (as it was for me) you don't even see that it's happening. You have to get a handle on that and the only way to do it is spend some time with you, delving inside.
What's your plan, what are your 180s? I have a 180 suggestion and it's one I had to learn, every thought you have does not have to cross your lips. Slow down.
Last edited by labug; 12/21/1403:07 PM.
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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
