I got 99 problems but an MLCer ain't one!

[daring]

Well 3 1/2 hrs later we have an agreement that we are both ok with.
H pushed a little on a few things and I stood firm. It seemed to be more related to his concern about the amount he still owed to creditors. One of our debts turned out to be much larger than expected and that freaked him out a bit- but I wouldn't let him shift the assignment of the debt. So in the end I took 2/3 of the debt but I am also keeping the house and all that's in it. I also am giving him a portion of my 401K. We splt the kids expenses in a fair manner based on ability to pay them. No spousal support. There were some tense moments and there were some funny moments.
He apologized extensively for how everything came across and admitted that he hadn't really combed through the agreement before sending. He asked if I had questions about the clauses that were initially upsetting and said he wanted us to talk it through now because he doesn't want any negativity between us going forward. I found that to be interesting- it's like he is trying to wipe the slate clean.
He acknowledged the many mistakes he had made in the relationship. He talked about seeking attention elsewhere when he shouldn't have, pulling back when he should have reached out, and how it's humbling to have to go back and work for someone and acknowledge he can't do his own thing right now. He said he's ready to grow in that way though. When I mentioned he seemed to focus in on my flaws and mistakes, he said that was one reason he wanted to send that text yesterday- to get back to focusing on the positives about me.
He said I know you may hate me or not want to, but I still am here and willing to listen and help you. He wants the opportunity to be close going forward. I told him I have no idea what I can do going forward.

Today I saw the H I know in many ways. We hugged at the end of it- a very emotional hug. Then he was cradling my face and started to say something but didn't. I saw love in his eyes like in the beginning of our relationship. I also saw raw pain. I told him thank you for meeting with me. Then he left.

Assessment:
1. I stayed strong and didn't give in on any of my major issues. We were both flexible where it made sense.
2. There is still a lot of love there but he is a broken man right now. There may or may not be a future for us. I will move forward with my life but will not close the door completely.
3. This hurts like he!! but I will be ok.

Thanks to all of you for all of your support, sharing of advice and for being a part of this amazing forum!