Calibri, we are two peas in a pod. And our Hs sound pretty similar too.
I think TLEE86 is on to something with his recommendation to stop apologizing. I am an over-apologizer, especially with my H, but a month or so ago I realized that it's actually hurting more than it is helping. I apologize in situations where I didn't actually do anything wrong, where no real conflict occurred, and (perhaps most fatally) where I have no real intention of changing my behavior. The first instance makes me weak, the second causes the situation to linger when it could have resolved quickly, and the third just sets my H up for disappointment.
You invited your WAH to dinner. It may not be the advice you'd get from veteran DBers, but it's not morally wrong either. If H apologizes again I'd respond just as TLEE86 suggests. Otherwise, I'd let it go -- for my own benefit as much as my M's.
