Interesting story to share...So last night a friend of mine (who has been there for me since day 1 and knows all the 'players' in my sitch) texts me from a bar/restaurant saying that he's sitting next to, and just talked with, OM and the girl who let W stay with her for the past year. He sent me pics to confirm it was OM and was ready to go all 'Dawgy' on him if I gave the word. When he asked OM if the girl was his wife, he responded 'No, it's my girlfriend's best friend.' I called W (I know, bad call) and she knew nothing about it, other than the two were friends. W also said she hadn't spoken with OM in probably a month, which another source appears to confirm. She seemed taken off guard.
If nothing else, this sitch has really made me realize who my true friends are. I know I can't pick her friends, but I've known this girl for probably 10 years. She's like an aunt to my kids. And now you're hanging out in a one on one setting with the guy who my W had an A with?! I have no logical explanation other than he's looking to hook up with her (she's very gullible and naive) or he's fishing for info on my W. Tells you a lot about his character.
On an unrelated note, going out with 4 couples tonight for a Christmas dinner. Is it awkward being a 'third wheel'? Sure, but I'm fine with it at this point.
I got caught up in the moment the other day and asked W if she'd like to come over for dinner tomorrow night. I slyly tried to rescind the offer, but she accepted. We seem to be getting along better recently- she reaches out to me occasionally, but there's still some coldness on my part. I know it's not a good idea to put a time frame on things, but I'm really considering seeing how the next 3-4 mos goes before taking any action. W has 4 mos left on her condo before the owners want to put it on the market, so she'll either have to line up another place (for another 6 mos?) or we're in a good enough place to discuss her moving back to the house. Not pressuring her or the situation, just keeping that in the back of my head.
