afraid I have waited too long #5

[nit84]

Wonka,

I will run what I want to send past people on here before I do it.

I have a friend who was a mutual friend of my W and I. My W no longer speaks to her because she feels that this friend is on my side and cant be partial. My friend disagrees with my W on the issue of partiality but oh well.

She was the one that walked away from her girl friend, She shared every detail with me about what it was like to be the one who walked away from a good thing. She thinks my W is going through what she did. The grass is greener type stuff. She then said that thank GOD she woke up before it was too late. This Happened 23 yrs ago and now they are M. I grew up with her W but I am much closer with this friend who I have known for about 7 yrs vs her W who I have known for 30 yrs.

She believes I am doing all I can and feels like you, that at some point my W will hit rock bottom or face some consequences. She says she won't seek out my W but if my W ever wanted to talk she would have no problem relaying the same story to her and would respect both my W and mine privacies. I believe she could do this if the chance presented itself. She knows about OM not because I told her but because other people have. She also knows OMW and their kids are good friends. What a mess!!

She was very candid with me about the person I was before the split and is amazed at the person I am now. She goes as far as telling me I have taught her so much about how to handle relationships that she feels it allowed her to feel confident in getting M just this past Summer.

She also Shared her battle against Bi-Polar. While not a Psychiatrist, she explained what she thinks caused a lot of her issues and how she has worked through them with the help of medication.

I am not saying that my W is Bi-Polar but some of her actions and the way she thought going back through our M is puzzling and the fact that she basically admitted more than once that "maybe I should see somebody" bums me out. Should I have insisted that she see someone instead of just supporting her if she did?

I am trying not to give my W a pass but from knowing what I do from my friend it does make it easier maybe knowing that my W has some of the same feelings as my friend did back then. My friend came out of an A to R with her W. Then it is possible for my W to do the same. I just have to stay the course and Pray.