my curiousity and lack of detachment got the best of me, and I looked up the number. It's a pre-paid phone. So...W is dating (or at least flirting with) a married man? I tried to think of another reason to balance it out but I failed.
This is one huge assumption you just made. You're assuming....
1. You're W is dating 2. You're W is flirting 3. It's a man 4. It's a married man
You remember the old saying what happens when you assume? It just makes an "ass" out of "u" and "me." Trust me, I struggle with snooping all the time because it's just so easy. But all I've learned is that when I snoop I begin to assume things that most the time aren't even true.
Case in point, my W started receiving a bunch of picture messages from a phone that I don't recognize late Friday evenings and it was registered to a guy. My first thought was crap why is this guy sending my wife a bunch of pictures on Friday and what could they possibly be. I didn't ask her about it but in one of our conversations you know what it ended up being? what she told me? That her boss at work sends out the schedule for the following week to her and all the employees on Friday evenings.
I felt like an idiot at that point and I was glad I didn't ask her but that caused me so much stress for about a couple weeks. I still struggle with this daily but my point is don't assume things because most of the time they aren't even true and our thoughts just spiraled downward. Hope this helps and enjoy your night!
ME: 28 W: 24 M: 2.5yrs T: 5yrs BD: 22 SEP 14 W Leaves: 5 OCT 14
