Finally, a D is just a proclamation that you're no longer married from a legal standpoint.
Wonka, i still struggle with this. You see, it's more than that. Right now, I have a financial plan that gets my house bought, my kids through college and my W and I into our mid 80's in retirement. If we D, my W takes a substantial chunk of that, and she has never had a $ that she didn't spend twice. So in the interim between D and any possible post-D R, we will likely lose 10 years and the kids education, and I'm at the age where I don't have that horizon anymore.
It's an issue that I'm still ruminating, if only in the hypothetical, since we are still diverging. If W comes back post-D, what was that? Just a ploy to get primary ownership of assets from Zew, that money controlling bastard? I can get over A's, but can I get over that, since to me it robs the kids? (These are my hells.)
