newcomer now receives mail in Hell

[bravo61]

you are right bug. i'm not a quitter and i'm not ready to give up on this. i have two major concerns/questions.

given my life history, abandonment etc, i've always been a somewhat negative person. how do i change that? i don't want to be that anymore. i've made great strides but i would like to hear and i'm open to any suggestions here.

second, what is the best strategy with my xw right now? going dark? i'm concerned about that as i was in another state for around 10 months. also, when she dropped the bomb, the first thing she said was "we needed someone we could depend on". i don't call, text, or spend a lot of time trying to chat her up during exchanges and its actually been pretty easy. she does cometimes ask me if i'm mad at her to which i smile and say nope.

on the decision to be more positve, i'm going to list some things that have been positive in my sitch:
i'm a awesome dad (even she has commented)
she has said she still loves me
she has said i'm a good person
she has said i'm attractive
she's reminisced fondly on our sex life
i don't cry everyday anymore
i'm closer to the Lord
the kids actively act as matchmakers (no urging from me)
she's not dating anyone
i don't try to "rescue" her anymore
she wants a hug every time i see her (well almost everytime)

i sure could use some help folks and i will be the clay. and i really want to be a more positive person for me and my life just need some guidance. thanks! i want to be the Crimson 2015!