Noted, all! I think my "other parts" were speaking a little too loudly in the middle of the night last night If this was a first date I'd be thinking "hmm.. he didn't seem that interested in me.. and he seems a little too into video games. Maybe I'll wait and see if he asks me out again." Honestly, the game thing is a huge red flag to me of things not changing for him. He has identified himself as an "addictive personality," and it goes back for as long as I've known him. In college and high school, it was online poker (like at the level of being up until 3am and not studying). After college it became video games. Then fantasy sports (multiple leagues, for almost every sport you can do fantasy sports for. I forget what he said last about how many leagues he's in for football alone.. 9?? And he managed 2 or 3 of them. It got to the point where we had friends over and he forgot he had a draft.. instead of putting it on auto-pick, he left me to entertain our friends and went to his computer for 3 hours to do the draft.) Then it was club soccer for awhile. Now it's stuff with his iphone. He just gets all consumed by these activities. I don't think that's what I want in a partner anymore. I want someone who can do lots of different things and their schedule doesn't revolve around some sort of online activity or game. Who actually has time to spend with me on the weeknights. Who isn't glued to their phone or computer. I did not hear from him today so I'm guessing he did not file the paperwork.
On the bright side, I have super great coworkers who planned a surprise "party" for me for my birthday (which is Sunday but no one will be around on Monday), complete with a balloon delivery, cake, and ice cream! Just the thing I needed before winter break starts.
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
If this was a first date I'd be thinking "hmm.. he didn't seem that interested in me.. and he seems a little too into video games. Maybe I'll wait and see if he asks me out again." Honestly, the game thing is a huge red flag to me of things not changing for him. He has identified himself as an "addictive personality," and it goes back for as long as I've known him. In college and high school, it was online poker (like at the level of being up until 3am and not studying). After college it became video games. Then fantasy sports (multiple leagues, for almost every sport you can do fantasy sports for. I forget what he said last about how many leagues he's in for football alone.. 9?? And he managed 2 or 3 of them. It got to the point where we had friends over and he forgot he had a draft.. instead of putting it on auto-pick, he left me to entertain our friends and went to his computer for 3 hours to do the draft.) Then it was club soccer for awhile. Now it's stuff with his iphone. He just gets all consumed by these activities. I don't think that's what I want in a partner anymore. I want someone who can do lots of different things and their schedule doesn't revolve around some sort of online activity or game. Who actually has time to spend with me on the weeknights. Who isn't glued to their phone or computer. I did not hear from him today so I'm guessing he did not file the paperwork.