First - sorry that you find yourself here. You'll find that there's alot of supportive people here who are going to something similar. Like me! I noticed alot of similarities between myself and you, and my H and yours. So I wanted to reach out and say hello.
Second - have you read the books? If not, read immediately.
Third - as card said -- listen to the vets should they post on your thread, or someone elses thread as well. Labug just posted on mine and gave me some much needed insight that's turned my thought process along to where it should be.
Fourth - read up on other people's threads and comment. It's the best way to show support and to get feedback.
Fifth - Follow Sandi's rules as they apply to your situation.
Sixth - Patience is key. And realize that you've been given a gift as Cadet says. This is a time to work on you.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15