still holding on - 5

[Little]

I think, in this instance, telling the kids you don't know what mom's plans are is okay. Is it technically a lie? Yes. But it's not on you to smooth it out (as you've been told) and worrying them does nothing.

This is an adult's business and the kids don't need to be in on it; nor do you need to be in the middle.

W-I know what is going on. I am only interested in a transparent, monogamous relationship with you and I know right now this is not happening. This is a decision you have to make though I understand that you do not want to make it. This is non-negotiable for me and I cannot believe that you don't understand this. Anything else is disrespectful to all of us including yourself.

I am done feeling like this.

I reworked the above for you: I know what is going on with OM. I am only interested in a transparent, monogamous relationship with you. It non-negotiable for me, as I feel anything else is disrespectful to our marriage. You will need to make a choice.