She says she's no longer "in love" with me. I wanted to point out that when she and I were in the dopamine phase, she couldn't have fallen in love with someone else for all the whiskey in Ireland. It's just the way these things work.
She is now telling you she is not in love with you?
Okay, this is just me, and Starsky may have better advice for you, since he did go through that with his W. I would not go into any more speeches about her addiction and the dopamine. I actually wanted to know if she was educated on the subject. She is not going to listen to you teach it. So don't even approach it right now (especially if you've brought it up in past talks).
If it is next month when OM comes, you may have a little time for her to calm down. I thought he was coming now.
I don't think you need to try to go into R talks again. Make your point and keep it short and simple. I believe Starsky can help you with some "script" to use.
No, we do have some time. Her saying she wasn't in love with me was part of her rhetoric from the beginning. I'll be talking about drawing the line in the sand about OM with my coach at our next session on the 29th. I don't feel like I need to go home tonight and do it.
I agree me trying to tell her about dopamine is pretty useless. I used the addiction metaphor for the last time a couple of weeks ago. She is not educated on it and seems to have a resistance to the idea of reading articles...says she prefers to feel her way through these things. That's the way she's always been, not unique to this sitch.
W just told me that the slimeball texted her "Merry Christmas". Yeah, I'm having a super effing Christmas, dirtbag :-( God, I want to call him right now...good thing I didn't copy his cell number.
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