a young marriage in trouble

[Calibri]

Keep things to a text if possible. Keep it short and simple. Let your W escalate into phone calls, when she's ready. And then, keep it short and simple.

I understand the anger. I do. I can be fine, one minute, but when I talk to my H and he wants to do "small talk" something inside of me just snaps. But I'm starting to realize, the anger is coming from rejection, fear that we won't work out, and impatience that he's not at a point to work on our relationship. So, I'm trying to stay quiet and not talk on the phone.

As for your wife and court -- I would advise you to talk to a L. Most consults are free. When this all started with my H, I consulted a L just to see the things I should think about, do/don't do. It's a good thing I did, because unbeknownst to me my H would drop another bomb on me that day. He even suggested I move out of our House, because he needed time and space. Because I had consulted a L - I knew not to leave, and was already prepared for that situation. Go for peace of mind, but knowledge of what you could possible be against. It's better to take that time -- rather than sit and wonder what if.