I thought you said your w had an affair before this one. (My memory for these important details is failing me at the moment--I was up traveling too late, my apologies). IF this is not the first affair,
then maybe she's not in the group of wives who were "missing an element INSIDE the Marriage",
and more in the group of wives for whom there is an essential element missing in THEM
What do you think? [/color]
25years,
Sorry to highjack, but my W told me during that one weekend she actually talked to me that she's had multiple EA's over the course of our R.
She said she was going to talk to MC about that when she said we would try to R, but when we got to MC she wanted no part of anything with R and I've heard nothing of this since then.
First, she said when we were dating she kissed another man, they were drunk. I didn't know about that until she told me just now. I did know at one point before we were M (13 years ago), she had a friend that she got drunk with and ended up kissing, nothing else. She told me about that all the way back then and I got upset, but let it go. Anyway, she said that another friend of her's from about 8 years ago she tried to kiss and he said no, that she was M. Then we have OM from now.
I validated her on telling me this and said that everyone has feelings like this sometimes. It gave me a glimpse that she was trying to work some of this out in her head and with a MC/IC, but since that time she regressed to just being angry at me.
Highjack over, if you have any insight can you reply back over on my thread (I thought everything was okay)? Thanks for all of your help
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
