Yeah not trying to keep score, but it was apparent that W's attitude toward me was much different than my attitude to her. She was very rude one-on-one w/ me. At one point I said "what do you need next" and she said "for you to get away from me." I just walked away.
However, she couldn't tone it down enough when others were around that it wasn't apparent how she was treating me.
Anyway, its done. I don't want to be in an R with the person she is acting like right now. The people that love her the most see the same thing, like SIL. I just hope she can work this stuff out within herself. That's where faith comes in that this is truly beyond my control.
I've not detached enough, but my IC and I went over my goals that we established from right after BD. I've accomplished all of them to the extent that I have control, so now its just a waiting game. The goals were
1) Establish stability for S5 and D4 (got it) 2) Re-establish some communication with W to discuss non-R things (as good as I can get it right now) 3) Understand what caused W not to share with me troubles in M (hiding A) 4) Understand why W left w/o wanted to work on M (Understand some issues in M, but also understand affect of A) 5) Understand how to teach the importance of M commitment to S5 and D4, if this ends in D (Long term goal, but DB is the first step) 6) Try to work on R with W (Opportunity is there for her if she wants it)
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
