Unfortunately I screwed that one up. She did go NC with OM, and by everything I can tell, she has, but we haven't done the letter. I was going to give her a couple of weeks to come down a bit from withdrawal before broaching that subject. It's only been 7 days.
No, we haven't talked about PEAS. I'll research and bring that up with her.
I believe it is a dealbreaker for her to meet with him, for the exact reasons you outlined. She will go through a few weeks of healing from the addiction and then proceed to destroy all that progress in one night. I can't do anything about her seeing him at work, unfortunately, but dinner is out.
She will be furious with me, no doubt. If she decides she's in this marriage completely, then I will stand by her side and work on healing our marriage full bore. If she can't see enough past her dopamine high to make that decision, then our separation is probably imminent.
She's already made it clear to me that she will do what she wants, regardless. Maybe separation will help her see what she's really doing to her family. Unfortunately the likely scenario is that she'll meet with OM and will end up in his bed. The sad part is that she'll feel perfectly justified in doing it because we'll then be separated and she blames me for putting her in this vulnerable emotional position to begin with.
Last edited by Rzrback; 12/19/1404:16 PM.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
