It is the addition that is pulling her. That is why she feels a strong "connection". Her seeing him is bound to trigger her emotions. Having dinner with him so they can talk should be a hard boundary, IMO. Nothing good will come from her talking with him, and she will have to go through all of this same stuff . She needs to make the decision now if she is in this M or not. It needs to be a decision based on the right thing to do, and not her feelings. Her feelings can't be trusted right now. She is too confused. Every time she bumps into him, those old feelings will rush back, until she is fully withdrawn from the A addiction.

In all the talks the two of you have had, has the subject of PEAs come up?

You should have already had the no contact letter sent and the transparency plan set. Now, she is going to be ticked and really think you are only trying to control her like a parent.

You need to decide if it will be a deal breaker if she does meet with OM. Frankly, I am very concerned that she will, especially if she's mad at you.

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Yep, it's time. I'm pulling back already - way back.


This is going to require more than you just pulling back.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!