Sorry to harp on this, but you really do need to recharge. It is good you are thinking through some of the decisions before you make them.
While you sit on this and think about it. IMMEDIATELY: Re-Read DR Part 1 "The Divorce trap", CH 1 "The Not So Great Escape"
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13