When I got home the other night I felt compelled to email my W.
After seeing all the hard work her and my MIL put into the fundraiser. I didn't realize how involved they were in making it a success. Other people helped out but I think my W did a big % of it.
This is what I wrote:
W, I just wanted to tell you I thought what you and your Mom did for this couple was incredible. You and your Mom plus anybody else who made this possible deserve so much credit and thanks. I am sure this couple appreciate your efforts, I do to. You have always been there in situations like this and it shows what type of person you are and it reaffirms what I already knew. If you would please extend my thanks to your Mom for me. Take Care, H
She responded yesterday mid-morning with "Thanks"
I didn't expect anymore and was actually happy W even responded.
I do have a little regret that I didn't go over and put tickets in for the Chinese Auction. My reasoning was my W was collecting the money and I didn't want it to look like I pursuing her and taking this opportunity, where she couldn't remove herself, to force her to talk to me. I kept saying just give her space and left it at that.
I left before everything was over saying Goodbye to people as I left but I didn't say Good bye to my MIL because she was busy and I didn't say Goodbye to my W for the same reason.
I believe how I handled this function was ok. I will leave it up to guys to tell me if I did or not.
Was there something I did wrong? Could I have done a little more and not crossed a line?
I want to know for future encounters like this so I can maximize my opportunities.
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014