The biggest thing would be time at home and selling my boat which is a painful reminder of my bad days. The decision to sell is easy, the ecomony may put a little damper on that though. The things I listed out in step 4 are for me and her, not this forum But I will say that my true looking in the mirror for the first time was the single most emmotionally painful thing I have ever done, It wasnt a sit down with a sponsor in a "traditional" way, it just sort of happened and through the tears took 5 hours to write a 4 page letter. I have a temporary sponsor currently and am looking for a sponsor. After my looking in the mirror or step 4. The only alcohol that will ever enter my body again will be imbalming fluid, and hopefully that wont be for a long time and I will get there one day at a time. I am still trying to figure out how I am going to get her to read the beginning of the book. I am hoping that will at least get her bak into counseling