Jim0987 #7 - rebuilding but can't tell what it is

[jim0987]

Thanks zew, GGrass.

I don't think I've entirely backed down from wanting to expose but actually its more to do with what's next

My wife is showing herself to be very dishonest and so whilst I'd rather wait the two years for a no fault divorce I find it very difficult to believe that she will.

I will gladly own my failings but ultimately she is choosing to end the marriage and despite her protests she hasn't tried to fix it, and the main reason is that she is in love with OM1.

So I suppose my view is that I will be divorced from my wife so why roll over and accept her blaming me when her adultery is why its ending (not why there were problems). Its probably an ego thing buy frankly I have enough esteem issues already

Despite all of that I would still rather reconciliation and do not wish to damage that prospect. I think I just need to be realistic and act accordingly