WAW Dating - Oh noes!!..

[LoveMyW]

I would say it means absolutely nothing to her. My XW slipped up a couple of times & called me Baby and tells the kids she loves me when they flat out ask her. Do not mention it to her, acknowledge it, or focus on it at all. That is for your sanity.

You are probably on to something there Bravo.. I don't intend to say anything about it, nor am I focusing on it.. It just took me by surprise that 4 months down the track it happens now..

Don't read into any one thing either good or bad, it will just mess with your head.

Comments or gestures may be made from habit. It's better to just not read into small things.

Too true JP.. I don't intend to as I have learnt better from here!!..


W might be having a bit of a reality check at the moment I feel.. I knocked off work today, and am commencing 2.5 weeks holidays, and we agreed that I would take the kids for the bulk of it (well before new BF was in the picture).. Well I met her at MIL/FIL's and had a coffee, then went to hers to pick up the kids required goods, and we were going through a few of the finer details RE: xmas etc..

Our plan has always been that I have them Xmas eve, then I go to her place for Xmas morning, then to MIL/FIL for lunch.. The plans changed slightly as my family is doing the Xmas thing on Xmas eve, and I was surprised when she said she would come (she was invited as there are no hard feelings from either of our families)..

Anyway, it changed from me having them all Xmas eve, to doing my families side of things and then myself and W taking the kids to look at Xmas lights together, then stay at her place that night.. No biggy to me as I agree with the reasoning behind it (all presents are at hers and we all know what kids are like Xmas morning!!)..

The reality check kicked in when I said I would be taking the kids away to one of our favourite camping areas with a couple of my family members.. She has been offered to go by them, and to my shock, once again agreed to go even if it is only for a day trip (for her anyway, she is working), but wants to stay overnight..

She then mentioned about her having the kids Xmas night, and then half of boxing day "as they will have new toys to play with" before they go camping.. Ok, true I suppose, but a slight change of plans (I was supposed to be picking them up first thing boxing day)..

The real kicker was when she realised they will be gone for almost a week before she see's them again.. You could almost see the cogs drop in to place through her eyes!!.. She started saying she would like to call them each day (when I have them for a 3 day weekend, the do Snapchats not calls) and almost cried when I pulled out her driveway..

I could take that as shared custody not being the game she thought.. She is also mentioning how it is getting a bit harder for her financially, but stopped short of asking me for help.. I did mention to her that I am sorry she finds herself in that position, but am not exactly doing it easy either, and it is something that needs to be dealt with on our own accord..


What gets me is wanting to spend Xmas eve with my family (they still class her as family too), and then camping with me/us/my family the day after..

I could look at this 3 ways.. Either she is being amicable (but excited about it all), wanting to spend more time with the kids (no problems there), or she is realising things aren't all they are cracked up to be with the new BF..

I'm not taking sides on any thought, but personally I think it is headway in some description.. All I know is that if I was in the BF situation, I wouldn't like that fact too much so let it play out!!..