I thought everything was okay...(Part 2)

[MCS]

So, stuff out of the house....W had some friends, 2 friends we knew together 2 that I've never met or really heard her ever talk about before.

So, I was pretty peeved that she brought someone to help her from our church, a decent acquaintance of both of ours, and obviously she was talking bad about me with them.

He asked me at one point when he first arrived if 'this' was something we were working on. I said, it was a surprise to me that she was unhappy and that she didn't want to work on M. He then said W told them that W felt like a 2nd class citizen around me. Judging by his look, it was almost like he knew he didn't believe that about me and was asking to see what I would say. All I said to him was "I'm the same person at home as I am when you see me" At that point, I started to tear up and I said; I just hope she works out what she needs to and I'm trying to support her in that. I think at that point he realized that there's something amiss in the whole sitch.

It took everything I had to not truly defend myself. Most of our closer friends have been seeing both sides and have come to their own opinions. This person, I care what he thinks about me, but I know I just had to stop and let it go. Saying anything else would not be good.

Well little did I realize, it didn't take long for others to figure out truly what was going on. A guy that I had no clue who he was came up to me at the end and said. "I didn't realize what I was getting into tonight. I now see what's going on. My W did the same thing to me, dropped the bomb on Xmas eve. Don't talk to W for the next month, she'll be angry no matter what you do or say." Then he gave me his # and told me to call him if I needed to talk to someone. No clue who he was, but a classy act to say the least.

So I was kind, helpful and had a good PMA. I realize now that did more than anything I could have said to show people the person I am. OM's BFF was there, I'm guessing W didn't know that I know that he is friends with OM. I've never met him before. Anyway, I have no clue how much he knows about W and OM, but I'm guessing he's having some doubts about what W says about me, but it doesn't matter.
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No rest for the weary...

Stuff's out, time to hit ikea this weekend to start getting settled back in to MY house. Here's the list

Add more under cabinet lights in kitchen
Paint ugly coffee table lurking down the basement for 8 years for Family Room
Buy a kitchen table
Replenish [some] of the kitchen utensils (I had no clue how to use 90% of what we had anyway)
Paint master bathroom. Sea-foam green....gone. Man-ly gray on its way
New bed frame in guest room
[Try] to expand my clothes from the 1/3 of the walk-in closet to the WHOLE closet as well as try to figure out what to do with a whole other dresser