Having a rough night tonight. H has been pushing me to move out (he bought a house while we were together but before we were married) and after applying for a place that is on par with the rent around here, I was told by a realtor that I do not make enough money per month to qualify. This hit me pretty hard and sent me into a tailspin of emotion.
H moved out that day he dropped the bomb, and has been living with his dad. My S and I have been at the house. H has been paying the rent, which I am thankful for, but continues to insist that I find a place to live. When I let him know how hard it is for a single mom who makes little money, he told me not to give him my "pity" and to ask my parents for money. He also has made comments about how I am too lazy and not aggressive enough when it comes to looking for a place.
Yes, it is hard finding a place for financial reasons that I will feel safe in and be able to afford, but it is also hard for me to move out because I'm afraid this will be making it easier for him. I don't know what to do.
Staying at my parents isn't an option for emotional reasons. My mom and dad are both verbally abusive and undermine my parenting, which I fear could cause even more damage on my S and I during this already difficult time.
So what do I do? Move out? Find any place that will take me and leave? Tell H I've been having a hard time and risk him thinking I am dragging my feet? Move in with my parents and suffer emotionally?
I need help, DBers...
Me 26 ; H 26 S 8 Married less than a year Bomb 9/15/14 H moves out 9/15/14 H Files 11/21/14 Served D papers 12/31/14
