Rough couple of days. My birthday is tomorrow. First one in 9 years that she won't be involved in. We have been going back and forth with Child Support. I feel like I'm being flexible. She feels like I'm not being flexible enough. I feel like a bank. Even her mom chewed me out today and told me that she won't let her daughter hit rock bottom. I feel bad that the STBX is hitting the bottom. I couldn't say anything previously to get her to stay, I have to come to terms with the idea that I can't say anything to change her mind or make her see anything.
I think I am trying to hard. I need to detach.
If we got the lawyers involved I would be detached. But what about the cost due to the adversarial relationship. Would it cause too much pain to every overcome?
It's LESS adversarial to some extent because your objective disinterested attorney is doing the hardcore negotiating versus you personally. The bonus is if they get upset you just blame your attorney. "It's not me...it's her/him". PLUS, you'll know it's a reasonable fair deal. In the end, it likely won't cost YOU more money to use an attorney. Just her ...since she can't rip you off.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
