Is the way to look at this to accept that she will make her decision and you will have to work with that? Presumably she has a right to occupy the house if she wishes, and if she decides to, she will. Are you pushing against and trying to control things that are outside your span of control right now?

So, lets say she decides to stay put and you choose to stop pushing against this - what can you do?

*move out and accept that you will see the boys part time
*stay put and make things as pleasant as possible
*stay put and agree some practical arrangements which make it less of an ordeal for you.

Engage with the reality and decide on your plan. Do the best thing for you and your lads. You may be harming yourself most by bashing your head against a brick wall.

I hope this helps Dawgy....

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