this time of year really is a difficult. I can imagine how you must be feeling. This will be my third X-mas, after BD. The first year, was just after we split. It was so hard to bare. I cried every day, feeling that my life was a shambles and it would never be good again. I wanted so badly for W to come back. It was just awful, so emotional and heart wrenching! That was a couple years ago. Today, I am feeling ambivalent about wife and her holidays. I am however, feeling super excited about mine! I just scored front row seats to the Nutcracker for my daughter and I! It is going to be so much fun. So, let this be an example to you; You WILL get to a much better place. It is going to take time and healing. You will have some SERIOUS ups and downs, but you will be happy, when the time comes for you to be happy.
Are you GAL, like we discussed? I hope you aren't shooting yourself in the foot and delaying your progress. Get out there and start living. It might not be your happiest times, but you need to get your feet in motion. Meet new people. Do new things. Go new places. I am going to keep hammering on your until you do!
In regards to the divorce, you need to set your feelings and emotions aside. You didn't choose to set this in motion, so don't feel bad if H is upset about it. Of course he is. He wants it all, and in his mind he can justify the fairness. He is living in dream land, and reality will eventually smack him in the face. The financial part is just one of the consequences of divorce. He hasn't even began to experience the rest, that will inevitably come. Let your attorney do his work. Don't bend and allow your future to be affected, just because you feel bad about upsetting the man who left you for OW. Don't engage H about the divorce, at all. If he asks or complains, don't even respond. Your relationship is personal. Your divorce is business. That is my opinion.
